Wednesday, January 16, 2019

What Happens When You Get Honest

what happens when you get honest

What happens when you speak the truth? What happens when you can't lie? What happens when you don't speak pretentious words? What happens when you get honest?

It is not the best policy: "Honesty is the best policy" Thats what the famous saying says. But what really happen when you get honest. I've been trying this experiment and been continuously integrating this honesty within myself. The things that I have observed are shocking and others are expected.
A lot of people don't want honest people. Because they are not honest with their self.
Its a two side hypocrisy. They speak lies but when you talk to them they want you to speak the truth. If you speak honestly and they can't take it. You are so bad to them like you are a liar.
Reality is that a lot of people can't handle the truth. Why they can't handle it? Because they prefer those comforting lies. Because it's to much. To much guilt stirring them up when they hear the truth.
Especially truth about themselves. They are so used of accepting and living those fabricated comfortable lies. That a simple truth slap is enough to wake them from dreaming and realizing a lot of things.

Why we lie? Why people Lie?
We lie because we are uncomfortable with our reality. We are not ready. We
fear that if we show the world or the people around us of who we truly are, they might reject us, despite us and it may not go as we foreseen.

While lying offers emotional and social protection it also offers emotional and social deprivation and degradation.

"Half a truth is often a great lie."
-Benjamin Franklin
So these is what happens when you get honest.

Lying to yourself is self hating. Why do you think people lie to other people? Because they don't like them, they don't trust them, they don' want any of them. Which means when you lie to yourself you don't like your very own.
We lie through our actions not just by words but also by staying in toxic relationships, taking calls or text from people we don’t care about, saying OK even if we are not.
We lie to ourselves to make ourself believe that we’re happy, confident, and just fine like everything is in place. When reality we are miserable, sad, empty, or just the plain "I don't give a shit" kind of lie.

When you start telling the truth and you commit to it on your everyday lives to the rest of your life, you create the opportunity for people to love the real you. They became open to you, and if the moment they lie to you they will feel guilty about it. Because they know you don't lie. You speak the truth.

Don't confuse being mean with honesty. Being mean is you tell something with a purpose or a particular meaning. You want to express something like an insult or derogatory remarks by doing it. While being honest is you uncover the truth. You tell what is given not what you think is given.

Thats the number one reason people stop talking to you they think you are just being mean. Yeah cause those people are weak. When it comes to truth and whats true.

Example: You had a very bad haircut.
Mean Man: Men! you look like a dipshit. Whats with the cut?
Honest Man: It doesn't look good on you. Wear a hat.

Example 2: Your are not smart.
Mean Man: Your so dumb.
Honest Man: Better study well.

Its always how the words are form and how you say it. People will stop speaking to you because not every word and the hurt you make and said can be control. Before you speak make sure that you know the consequences and the gravity of your words. Who will get affected, who will get hurt, how painful and is it really worth telling.

People will back away from you if you speak all bold and full of grit. Especially puny people. After people stop talking to you they will socially drift a little bit away from you.
It is also a good opportunity to weed out those who drift away from your circle of people. You can also see and know people who are capable of handling realities, your honesty and you.

"Ah! this man can't handle what I'm saying" don't force or butt yourself in to other people. You are being honest not to be agreeable but to be true to yourself and to others.

Because they are weak they can't handle the words of an honest man. They can't take truth. If they did they will be guilty big time. It cuts deep. It hurts.
They need to understand why you are telling the truth. Why you are being
honest about what you really think. That you are not being mean. Express to them that you only want to be genuine as much as possible and you are sick of living in  pretentious lies and narcissism.
They get intimidated and hesitant, because they are afraid.
"Oh men! what he will he gonna say about me and my new suit? Better stay away from him." They are afraid of your honesty. They are afraid that you might over power them just by saying what is true. Don't worry it's their problem not yours.

They will find you entertaining. They will start to trust you. Imagine out of 100 people they know you are the only one who is honest and who will tell the truth.
People will start to seek your advice and guidance because they know you are not a fraud. They know you will tell them what they need to hear without a price. Unlike those paid reviews and advertisement. They know your words are not baloney and for tell tales.
People will know it came from the heart, from the man inside you. Plus you will look attractive with the ladies.

I can say that this is true. Most business partners, entrepreneur and investors have one in common before they do business. No its not money. Its honesty. They want to know that what they are dealing with can be trusted before they pour their money all over. When you speak the truth and being honest about stuff. You will build a reputation. Not only to your circle of people but also to potential business individuals.

Who want to be lied in terms of business dealing and money handling? No one. Right.

You don't need to come up with something in your mind just to lie. Cause you already speak honestly. Time will come that it will be embedded in your system that you will despite and smite lies and liars. You are comfortable with the words you let go. No over thinking, no reconstruction of conversation and you don't need to apologize. Less stress.

Lying is a chain in prison, you are the ones captive if you lie. Like I said you worry less. You are liberated. You are not chained to the sick and faulty system of yourself and other people.
You don't need to worry about the words you speak after. You will be relieved from the constriction of white lies. No need to act them out or follow out with another lie. No social pressure, No limited words. No self, emotional and social deprivation, You have honest intentions, people will respect you. Almost everything is at rest. Freedom.

"The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off."

-Gloria Steinem

Lets not be hypocrite everyone lies. So do I and you. At least what we used to. If everyone do it. Should we be doing it? Even if we know we want to better ourself. Pursuit for freedom through honesty liberate your heart from misleading people and society.

Honesty is about the experience, the struggle, the story behind that scars. it’s about the imperfections. But it’s more than just that. It’s about truly helping people. Without expecting something in return.

What really happens is, when you get honest, you get real. (Shit gets real.)

Stay lean. stay clean, live life awesomely.

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