Monday, April 29, 2019

42 Things A Father Should Teach His Son

42 Things A Father Should Teach His Son

I'm not a father yet. But these are the things I like to teach my son and wish my father thought me some. Salute to the fathers who are man enough to support and be a real father and husband to a family. In commemoration of fathers day here it is.

1. Positive Attitude
I think everyone need this. You gonna need your son to be smart and optimistic at all cost. Teach them to seize opportunities, teach them to find loopholes on chaos and climb the ladder of success. Teach them that bullshits happen if they act stupid. Teach them to look at the bright side of life.

2. Sports
Sports that include balls on which you must have balls to do so. Soccer, football, baseball, basketball any kind of sport that includes balls and that needs balls. Its really is sad to see some teenager sitting at the corner of the bleachers listening to music with their headphones watching others kids play. Which would be them if someone encourage or teach them to play.

3. Self Defense
The most basic is to prevent fights. Prevention is still better than reconciliation after fight, no need to waste your strength and hurt your fist. Second is how to throw a punch, a good one. Third is how to finish a fight. If you are a father who is not good at combat "mano a mano" or martial arts. At least hire or enroll your son on martial arts school, class or club. Preferably jiu-jitsu, or judo.

4. How To Tie
How to tie a tie? Sounds cliché? But as a man you will be and your son will be needing it. Not just necktie but also knots. From shoe laces to tent and camping knots.

5. Willpower
"Mind over body" an underrated phrase. But still useful. Teach your son to master his will. Not only it can lead him to the things he really want to do. It can also teach him to be discipline in controlling unnecessary wave of emotions, lust, desires and other toxic indulgence.

Teach and use your willpower muscle to help you win your long-term game.

6. Be The Man
Never submit in a lower power. Forget the equality charade. It will never happen. Know your place and your power. Know the scope of it and identify in who you should be using it. Count and know the people who you will be giving your time, money, attention, yes, no, and sperm. Don't do stupid things just to please someone.

7. How To Build Something
Trust me, the power and art of creativity is worth teaching. Creating something like bookshelf, table, chair, etc is a blessing to teach. Your son will remember you with that. I always remember my dad when I make a DIY (Do It Yourself) chair and tennis table from scratch and raw materials.

8. Discrimination And Judgment
Like I said at number 6 "Forget the equality charade. It will never happen." Its true gender and racial equality will never be accomplish by humanity. But it doesn't mean you will be a jerk about it. Discrimination and pre-judgment is how you survive in this world. You can't do anything about it because that is our mind and bodies defensive reactions. If you see a man who dress and have make-up you know what they are. You see a woman dressed like and act like a whore, you know its a whore. You see an angry man with a shotgun, you keep your distance you don't want to do anything about with him.

9. Trust Is Earned
Never ever let your guard down. People in this world will used and abuse you. Either you are good or bad. They will eat and devour the weak, make slaves of the average, ignore the shits, and worshiped the strong.

10. Respect Is Earned
Treat everyone politely but keep your defenses up. Remember this, you act polite to strangers not because they earn your respect but you are just being human. True respect is earned, when its demanded its not respect its just half-ass politeness.

11. Work Hard And Work Smart
Teach your son the importance of hard work and how to work smart. There comes the time when teenagers in their prime do all the lazy and slothful stuff. This is also the time that will define the rest of their life. To develop the will and habit of discipline and not being lazy on any and different fields of interest and work.

12. Physically Fit
Being fit and ripped shows power and confidence on your skills and abilities. Stay lean, stay mean and clean. Don't let yourself fall to depression and despair. Teach your sons to lift weight, take part time physical labor jobs or go to the gym. Always move. Sleeping a lot, sitting and crouching at the couch will not make someone physically fit. Its not magic you need to work it up.

13. Health
This one is important like physical fitness. Teaching your sons the importance and foundation of good health. Is a priceless lesson. Health is one factor and foundation that will determine your future. Imagine if you get sick or you always get sick. A lot of things and decisions will be affected. Your body will be affected, your confidence will be affected, your sex life will be affected and a lot more.

14. Sex, Protection Etc.
Many men get trapped and cornered by this. Due to lack of before hand knowledge. No one warns or teach them about it. Being a father it's our duty to teach our sons about sex, protection, lust, pornography, masturbation and how to respect women and not to be an asshole. Many young people get their self in trouble because no one teach them the right and wrong or what not to do. Most boys became father at an early age, other catch STD or worse HIV and some are convicted of rape because they can't control their lust or in the influence of alcohol, drugs, or twisted lusty mind. Some don't even know how to use a condom. Its a manly and moral obligation to teach your son about this correctly.

15. Swimming
Even crippled people knows how to swim, so why can't your son? Teaching someone on how to swim is a great skill and bonding moments. You well never know what will happen.

16. Climbing
In some parts of the world especially in Vietnam and in the Philippines. Although its not advisable to climb tress. Other children will laugh at your child for not being able to climb a tree and get some fruit or just for the fun of climbing it.

Teach your son also on how to climb mountains and do hiking.

17. Driving
Includes all, from bicycle, motorbike, car, truck, tractor, etc. Trust me driving is a necessity.

18. Competition Is Great
It helps develop a sense of greatness. It adds up to the motivation. You compete to win and learn. Always set your goal to be the top first, don't settle for number 2 or 3. Aim for the top if you can.

19. Opportunity Knocks
You must learn to keep your eyes and ears open and ready to take advantage of opportunities. Seek opportunity. If it doesn't show in your face. Seek it out.

20. Never Let Your Guard Down.
The world is full of thieving wolves and devouring lions. You only had two choices eat someone or be eaten. Be a predator or be the prey.

The world will not just rotate and say. "Hey I will take care of you." No it doesn't work that way. It's more like "Hey! guards up! Cause I will messed you up."

So never ever let your guard down.

21. Make Money On Your Own
Teach your children skills that they might use to make money and they will be carrying through the rest of their life. In this world you need two things to survive practically and literally. Money and skills.

22. Give Your All
Never give less of what you can. Don't submit to the "Oh its OK, time to wrap things up". Do things right and with passion and precision.

Your aim for greatness is what makes you different. It's what separates you from the animals of society.

23. Proper Posture
Your body is your pride and confidence. Stand straight, don't wimp down. Take charge and pride of your body it is yours.

Don't be a nobody with slouching back and retracting jawline. Be a confident man with straight back, chin up with chiseled jawline.

24. No Excuses
Excuses are similar to complaining. You're just making it sound like its not your fault and acceptable.

Excuses are for the useless and the weak that lack discipline who cannot do what they said they would do. Always do as you say you will do and never give excuses as to why you didn't do something.

25. Apologize Only Once
How not to apologize? Don't do something stupid. Never used the word sorry out of habit. Never say sorry for simple things. Never ever say sorry for the thing you didn't do. Never say sorry for saying the truth and the reality you see. Never say sorry for offending other people with your words as long as you know what you are saying is true.

Saying sorry only applies if you did something so terrible and you are truly guilty about it.

26. Women/Girls
Some women will respond back to you as a woman, some will respond to you as a man, be careful. Some women will respond to you as a girl. Know the difference.

Most women will be respond to you being a man. The further away from their femininity you are, the more they will be attracted to you. Real woman don't get attracted to boys and girls. They might admire but never get attracted. Real women are attracted to men.

Treat them with respect and dignity as long as they deserve it.

27. Discipline
Timidity is good for nothing. If you want something you go after it and you take it. You don't ask permission to fulfill your goals, you don't apologize for your goals, you don't make excuses for your goals, and you don't give a damn about what the lesser people say.

Be discipline enough to reach and take something you want. Be discipline enough to trim and cut your hair. Be discipline enough to take a shower. Be discipline enough to do the things you want to and aspire. Be discipline enough to keep your body at top condition.

See Also: Stop Excessive Consumerism.

28. Kindness To Animals
Yes animals may bite but they will never betray you as hard as humans. Treat animals with firm kindness. Remember you had the world, your family and friends. Your animal friend only had you.

Plus most girls like a man who is kind to animals.

29. Think Abundantly and Big
Think big but not with a big head. Small dreams and thought are cute but worthless. Think big, aim high and get big results.

If silver is not enough go for gold. If still not enough go for diamonds.

30. Money Handling
Spending your money mindlessly on the latest gadgets and knick-knacks and not saving anything for a rainy day is stupid. You will always need a backup fund for a rainy day or for an investment opportunity. Rainy days don't provide good opportunities.

See Also: How To Be Thrifty The Practical Way.

31. Beliefs
The most common thing to happen in life is, a parent will surely teach values and beliefs that are also thought of them by their parents. Parents have the right to teach their children of what they think is good for their children.

Time will come that your son and daughters will grow up and build their own piece of mind that depends on how you raise them and the environment they grow up with.

They will start to question a lot of things and experience new things in life.

32. Proper Manly Gestures
Shaking hands, sitting properly, manner of talking, table etiquettes, and a lot more. Not only it will make you look like a cultured man but also it will make you feel glad, confident and cultured as well.

Manners and etiquettes tells a lot about you, your personality and character. As a parent it reflects back at you the manner and characters of your child on how you raised them.

33. How To Shave
Both in your head, face and down there. Spending a dollar just going to the barber to do the shave for you is lame.

The only time I go to the barber is to cut my hair not to shave my beard. Its really hard to imagine a man with a beard and don't know how to shave.

34. Use a Weapon
Teach your son on how to fire a gun properly and teach them how to aim correctly. In this world shit happens.

A gun could be used in many different ways. Hunting, intimidation, killing, and self defense. Teach them to use it wisely, correctly and carefully not to shoot their self.

Teach your son to use knives correctly. Teaching them to peel a fruit using a knife is the least you could do.

35. Fight Back If Needed
If you are going to fight fight hard and short. Don't make the fight to last long. Cause if you do, you just hurting your knuckles, better finished the problem as fast as possible.

In all regards do not start a fight. In any rule of law and social convention the first one to start a fight is the ones at fault. In any case that fighting and brawling is inevitable, fight back and fight hard.

36. Yes and No
Oh yes the magic words of power. There is no such thing as in between. Yes is yes and no is no. Don't confuse it and don't confuse other people with your answer. Teach your son to be a man of his words. That his words are his honor. Don't trifle with it.

37. How To Change Tire
Don't waste money to pay someone to change your tires. There comes a time that one of your tires will blow off and need to change. Tendency is you are in a highway far from society. You have to choices, change your tire or call someone to change it for you and sit there and wait like a fudge until rescue comes.

38. How to Survive In The Wild
Read number 34. This rarely happen being trapped and stranded in the mountains or some remote island, due to modernization in society and over population.

Learning the skills on survival always comes handy from time to time. Learning to tie a knot, first aid and resourcefulness is always needed.

39. Go To Barbers Not Salon
Common sense will tell you the difference.

40. Cook and Grill
Its a mans duty to feed his self. If you don't know how to cook you will be one of three things: Fat, Skinny or Starving. It is a mans nature to eat so therefore need to know how to cook. At least the basic cooking the basic foods. The solution to this is learning. Learn to cook.

If you don't know how to cook, you will end up eating ready to eat full of gluten preservatives added food. Or in the other hand spending money on fast food, restaurants, and other dine inns plus the tip.

41. Travel
Travel doesn't make you good looking, working out does, traveling doesn't give you money or make you a better person. It gives you life experiences. Experiences you never thought you could experience. It opens your eyes to the world.

When I say travel, I don't really mean buying a plane ticket, staying at a hotel and lying at a white sand beach. It maybe part of it, but what I mean for the world travel is emerging yourself with nature, looking and trying new things, participating in other peoples culture and listening other stories of people and places.

42. Experience Life
Don't tie yourself down with an un-affordable mortgage, don't tie yourself down with a job making others richer, never tie yourself down with immense credit card or student loan debt. If you can't pay cash, wait and save up until you can. Don't settle for a computer screen and a wi-fi connection. Life has more to offer than you could imagine.

Always remember stay lean, stay clean, live life awesomely.

Saturday, April 20, 2019

My Essential Blogging Arsenal

My Essential Blogging Arsenal

Most blogger have knick and knacks of their favorite physical tools they use in blogging. Expressing those emotions, ideas, opinions, jokes, and a lot of other stuff. To start with I'm gonna share you mine. These are just plain simple items I use almost everyday or every other day.

1. Laptop
This one will always be on the top list. This is where I finalized my blog articles, edit pictures, videos, do research, and a lot of things. Even without the other items below as long as I have a laptop I can go on writing and posting. This is where my spreadsheets and documents for my businesses are created and stored. Well I use a backup storage just in case.

My whole blogging world relies mostly on computer machines and the Internet. Its common sense, cause I'm an online blogger.

2. Journal And Pen
This three, laptop, journal and pen are my most valuable possession in my backpack. Journal are my everything notes. I write all my pop-up ideas in my journal, my to do list, my reminders, transactions, notes and anything that needs to be written down.

This is where the beauty of writing and ideas are stored and formed. Mini-ideas got pop-up, written down, and then stitch together. To create one big idea or article.

One journal is enough for the whole year. My journal is a medium sized hardbound plain book with big page numbers.

3. Smartphone
My all in one on the go tool. Used mostly for communication and business transactions. Used to check emails, text, time and date. An alarm clock, reminder, digital camera, music player, news updater, payment tool, dictionary, translator, map, locator, GPS, fitness tracker, and many more a smartphone could do. But mostly used for calls and quick email read and replies.

4. Camera
I don't usually use this as often compared to the three item listed above. But this one I used when I'm into my photography hobby. I also used this for taking snaps of random beautiful moments I encounter while traveling or hanging out, doing research on a different places.

When it comes to camera. You don't actually need an expensive camera. All you need is a decent one.

5. Backpack
I put everything in here. Laptop, journal, camera and other stuff. This one is the keeper of my things especially when I travel and go to mountains, and beaches. Honestly everything I need usually fit in a backpack, yes it does.

When you are traveling or always go somewhere else you will learn to lessen you baggage. Until you learn to live on one backpack on a daily basis.

Always remember stay lean, stay clean, live life awesomely.


Friday, April 12, 2019

Stop Excessive Consumerism

stop excessive consumerism

Even though I'm a minimalist person. Yes I like simple things and style that are not to excessive. I try to live my life without the gluttony of consumerism. But that doesn't mean I still don't own anything.

I still have things I consume, like my laptop, where I write and post blog articles, my journal, my phone, and some of my necessary stuff.

Since the time I started to lessen my stuff and enter the world of less, less on consumerism. I started to work hard and smart.

My mind is not in a state of dilemma where I need to choose an item then choose the other instead and going back to the first choice.

I learned to be contented. I feel like no one owns me. Material things doesn't own me. I own them.

Consumerism becomes excessive when it extends beyond what is needed. When we begin consuming more than what is needed, boundaries are removed. Self-discipline crumbles, will power get stuck.

"Jero! When is the time to stop excessive consumerism?" Now. Yes now, not tomorrow or the other day, not on Christmas or even new year. Now!

Here are some tips to consider:

Stop Excess Buying.
You go to the grocery store cause you need to buy food. End of story. Buy only what you need and what you have came for. If you go there to buy food, buy food. If you go there to buy bathroom materials buy bathroom materials. It's not called being thrifty, it's called discipline buying.

Avoid Advertising Media
Advertisements subtly reshape and control our desires around material possessions. And the modern consumption culture that surrounds us begins to make excessive consumption appear natural and normal.

Guess what? It became normal that most people tend to go in debt just to acquire stuff they don't really need. To pay that debt, they work on jobs they don't like.

Stop Using Social Media
Social media is one of the medium that promotes lifestyle envy and dissatisfaction. You want more because you see other people have more. You want to level or even surpass those strangers on material things. Because the worlds majority is composed of materialistic people.

Measuring your success, happiness and peace based on things that can be burnt is just stupid and absurd.

Stop Comparing
Lifestyle envy is a diseased that make people furious and depressed. Comparing yourself to other people is destructive.

Comparing the things you own with other peoples stuff is just plain enviously stupid.

Even How hard you try, you could never be that person. Even if you can afford the stuff they owned, but you can never afford on how they look and feel about those things.

It will only make you empty and dissatisfied of everything.

Iron Willed Mind
Make and wake up your mind. Every tips I mentioned above is useless if your mindset and thought are still addicted to consumerism. Its not a matter of will power, its a mental issue.

Open your mind, discipline it and control it. Your mind is just a part of your total self. Don't be a slave of a combined cells. Don't be a slave of excessive consumerism because you are not.

See Also: Be Discipline And Stop Being Lazy

Excessive consumption leads to bigger houses, larger jewelry collection, faster cars, trendier clothes, fancier technology, and envious mind. It promises joy and happiness, but never delivers that promise.

Its just emptiness and a need to want more. A desire which is promoted by the world around us.

And it slowly depriving us of our true life and experience. It redirects our own passion and self worth to nothing. Delivering us to the things and job that can never fulfill our true need. It consumes our little mind and ate our resources.

Always remember stay lean, stay clean, live life awesomely.

Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Decluttering Life, Making Things Simple

sofa and lamp

"To remove unnecessary items from (an untidy or overcrowded place)". That what declutter means. Don't confuse it with organize. You organize things after you declutter it.

We are a society and generations submerge and drowning in unnecessary possessions. As a results our home, our, yard, our, room, our, pockets, our mind are filled with more and more useless stuff.

We humans have a nature of making temporary solutions to almost everything. Instead of de-owning unused stuff, we organized it. Rearrange it to fit and look presentable. Everything about organizing and rearranging is just bullshit, its all temporary fix.

You organize the stuff in your room, after six month you need to organize again. Why? You can't fix something permanently using temporary solutions.

"Organizing possessions is an action that must be repeated over and over and over again."

So whats the permanent solution? De-owned, declutter, let go of those useless things and unnecessary knick-knacks. Stop collecting garbage you're not a garbage dump site.

There are a lot of benefits that can be consider in decluttering and de-owning.

You can benefit a lot of spared space. Other people can benefit from de-owned items you have.

You can earn money out of it. Sell your unnecessary stuff, get some extra cash out of it.

You can resist the desire of purchasing more.

You can remove unnecessary, clingy and toxic memories that stick to those possessions.

You can accomplish more changes. Not just in your room and house, but also in your mind and thoughts. Having less things to mind can made your self at peace.

We can declutter our stuff, but not our lives.

Removing possessions begins to turn back our desire for more as we find freedom, happiness, and abundance in owning less.

And removing ourselves from the all-consuming desire to own more creates opportunity for significant life change to take place.

Always remember, stay lean, stay clean, live life awesomely.

See Also: What Happens When You Get Honest

Sunday, April 7, 2019

I Choose To Own Less

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I own more by owning less.

I started living my life as simple, refined and elegant as it can be. A straight forward simple approach, no bullshits included.

My main reason is "Simplicity works it forge results, while complexity produces complication and is a waste of time, effort and mind."

Hard work pays off. But making things complicated as it is, is just plainly, senselessly stupid.

If you can explain an idea or a reason in one sentence it is much more better than explaining it in one paragraph. Simple and brief remarks are always better and remembered.

Take for example when someone praise you. When they say "you done very well in convincing our investors in your presentation for this meeting, congratulations". Now compared it when someone says "You did great, congratulations!" See the difference? Less had more impact.

Long and extended explanations are an intelligent way to sound stupid.

Take a look on colors, does the fagot color rainbow had impact on you compared to the plain black, white and gray? I don't think so.

Always keep things simple. Because things can only be done in two ways. Simple and complex. Only an idiot will follow the complex process even if the results are the same that is done with the simple process.

Don't let over consumerism own you. One saying says - "The things you own end up owning you".

Don't let yourself be emotionally attached to inanimate objects. Enjoy the magic and beauty of simplicity.

You can buy all the stuff you want. But it will never make yo truly happy, all you felt are just temporary happiness and short time satisfaction.

You have all the ladies. But it can never make you a true man.

You can have all the likes, hearts and share. But it can  never reflect your real life.

Simplicity, minimalism and owning less is just so underrated that most people overlook the benefits. All of them are consumed by modern consumerism. You could strive or attempt to do things on a complex way. You could own all material things that you can get. But don't let it devour you. Strive and aspire to own less and experience freedom.

Always remember stay lean, stay clean, live life awesomely.

Thursday, April 4, 2019

How To Shake Hands Like A King

See Also: How To Speak Like A King 

This Is A Proper Hand Shake
Handshake is one of the most important arsenal of a man especially on his journey to business and first impressions.

A handshake represent who you are. If you do a handshake and your hands feel cold, sly, wimpy and soft. What do you think the impression of the other party? Of course, they will think you are a person that can be trifled. A weak, less confident person, wuss, sissy and other weakly nicknames they will give you. Like in the picture below.

Not This Kind Of Handshake

A handshake represent who you are. If you do a handshake and your hands feel cold, sly, wimpy and soft. What do you think the impression of the other party? Of course, they will think you are a person that can be trifled. A weak, less confident person, wuss, sissy and other weakly nicknames they will give you. Like in the picture below.

This Is A Correct Handshake
Especially don’t do a handshake like this in the GIF image below.

Greatly And Especially NOT This Kind Of Handshake
Always remember that there are instances that you need to shake hands in an uncomfotable way. Most cases will be handshaking with a disabled person or someone withouth a right hand. In my case I once made a handshake with retired soldier, he’s a retired SAF (Special Action Force) which literally he doesn’t have a right hand anymore. Got crashed during a rebel war in the Philippines. So it needs to be cut. In that case it is understandable.

Or in some other cases the person literally refuse to do a handshake. I don’t know what the reason but there are people who refuses handshakes.

The moment someone offered a weak wimpy handshake, you already know what you are dealing. You are dealing with a wuss.

Being a man of integrity, dignity and values. You must always offer a proper handshake and not any other claptrap handshake, fist bump, hand slide or whatever the heck those wuss called it.

Tips to do a proper handshake.
  • -Introduce yourself with a handshake.
  • -Always offer the handshake first.
  • -When you’re about to do a handshake always offer your right hand.
  • -Always offer a good, firm grip. Never give a limp greeting to a man.
  • -When doing business do a handshake before and after a meeting.
  • -Always offer a handshake to people you only meet for the first time.
  • -Always make eye contact. It is important to show an eyes full of fiery determination and confidence.
  • -Don’t seat while doing handshake. Seating while handshaking are for ladies.
  • -Don’t be an OCD “germaphobe“. It is OK to shake hands with people who have dirty, greasy, and hands that have worked in the hard labor sector. They are human also and it will not kill you.
  • -Control your strength and don’t shake hands to long or it will be awkward. 
In shaking hands, you are not a lady, a kid or a wuss. You are a man, so shake hands like a man, like a King.

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Always remember stay lean stay clean live life awesomely.

See Also: How To Sit And Stand Like A Man